Stop the Blame Game


Today, I am going to tell you the biggest secret there is, in the self-development philosophies around the world. Different school of thoughts have called it with different names.  But it’s the One basic thing we all need to adapt if we want to achieve our dream life.

“I was out walking one night and found a man down on his knees looking for something under a streetlamp. I Inquired as to what he was looking for. He said he is looking for his lost key. I offered to help and got down on my knees and helped him search for the key. After an hour of fruitless searching, I said, “We’ve looked everywhere for it and we haven’t found it. Are you sure that you lost it here?” He Replied, “No no, I lost it in my house, but there is more light out here under the street lamp.”

It is time to stop looking outside for the answers to why you haven’t created the life and results you want, for it is You who creates the quality of the life you lead and the results you produce”

We all have this belief system that we are entitled to a great life—that somehow, somewhere, someone (certainly not us) is responsible for filling our lives with Health, Happiness, Good Career, Nurturing family, Lasting personal relationships etc. That there is some one else responsible for the quality of the life you live.

Yes there is!!

No, I am not talking about God..

That person is You!!.

If we want to be successful, we have to take 100% responsibility for everything that we experience in our lives.

The bad news is, this is not easy.

In fact, most of us have been conditioned to blame something outside of ourselves for the parts of our life we don’t like. We blame our parents, our bosses, God, the weather, Modi, our astrological chart, —anyone or anything we can pin the blame on. We never want to look at where the real problem is—ourselves.

We have to take the position that we have always had the power to make it different, to get it right, to produce the desired result. For whatever reason—ignorance, lack of awareness, fear, needing to be right, the need to feel safe—we chose not to exercise that power. It doesn’t matter why we choose that. The past is the past. All that matters now is that from this point forward we choose—Yes, it’s a choice, it always was and always will be—to act as if you are 100% responsible for everything that does or doesn’t happen to you.

If something doesn’t turn out as planned, you will ask yourself, How did I create that? What was I thinking? What were my beliefs? What did I say or not say? What did I do or not do to create that result? How did I get the other person to act that way? What do I need to do differently next time to get the result I want?

I firmly believe in the words, “Don`t Preach what you don’t follow”. Let me tell you, how this principle of taking responsibility has helped me, be what I am today!

If fate had played its cards well, I would either be selling Beedi in a petty shop, inherited from my dad or ended up in a Ashram doing Bajan`s. Today I am leading a happy and successful life. I have a well earning job, where I can do what I love. I am healthy and smart. I have travelled to some exotic locations in Asia-Pacific and Western Europe. I am manifesting what I desire, while also helping other to achieve the same. But this was not the case all thru my life. Be it while I was pursuing my CA, or while I was finding job, I was usually the underdog. I dont think anyone would have even imagined an average kid from a lower middle class family with orthodox background will become so successful in life.

What did I do different?

I took responsibility for my life and I believed that I can become what I truly want!! I did not blame my parents for not feeding me in silver spoon. I did not blame the government for not giving me opportunities since I was not having any reservations in education or career. I did not blame the system as I had to work while I was still studying. I did not blame god when I had to manage my collage studies, my internship and my family business all while riding on my bicycle for more than 80 kms a day.

Remember, the power to success is always in our hands!!

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